About this quote

People and pets often act on their own instincts, and pushing to control that wastes energy. You can stop arguing over small habits and instead decide what actually matters to you. Try loosening one expectation this week and watch whether tension falls away. That simple shift can free up time and make relationships easier to live with.

When to use it

• At a team meeting when your female manager insists on a bold change: "Women and cats will do as they please, and men and dogs should relax and get used to the idea," I said, and we moved on.
• At a family dinner when your sister rearranges the seating again: "Women and cats will do as they please," you laugh, and stop arguing about it.
• At the animal shelter while choosing between a cat and a dog: "Remember, women and cats will do as they please," you tell your partner, warning them the cat may rule the apartment.
• On a first weekend living together when she redecorates without asking: you shrug and say, "Men and dogs should relax and get used to the idea," and decide which fights matter.