About this quote

Pain is part of being human, but you do not have to let every hurt come from the people you choose to keep close. Making conscious choices about who you trust and how much access they have is a practical way to limit avoidable damage. Ask yourself who actually treats you with respect and who repeats old patterns. Start small: change one boundary this week and see how much lighter things feel.

When to use it

• After my coworker took credit for my idea at the meeting, I said it to myself before sending the next draft to anyone.
• When my sister asked to crash at my place again after messing up her rent twice, I used the line to remind myself to say no.
• Dating after a long breakup, I repeated it in my head when someone showed controlling behavior and walked away.
• After a trainer ignored my pain during rehab, I remembered the idea and switched to someone who respected my limits.