About this quote

People’s words and moods often reflect their own stuff, not your worth. That truth can stop you from turning every slight into a personal crisis. Learn to pause and ask whether something actually involves you before you react. Do that and you'll save energy and respond more clearly.

When to use it

• Work — After my boss snapped about a missed report and my stomach dropped, I reminded myself, "Not everything is about you," and checked the facts before apologizing.
• Family — When my sister stormed out of the room during dinner, I thought she was angry at me until I remembered that line and gave her space.
• Study — I flinched when a classmate rolled their eyes during my presentation, then I told myself, "Not everything is about you," and focused on improving my slides.
• Sports — After my teammate blamed the loss in front of everyone, I used the quote to stop replaying every play in my head and practiced for the next game.