About this quote

Men often get credit for basic survival tools, but women master the art of social dynamics and risk. It is one thing to invent a tool; it is another to understand how to manipulate its power for influence and fun. You have to look past the raw mechanics of power to see who actually controls the room. Power belongs to those who know how to direct the energy, not just those who built the hearth. Are you merely managing your resources, or are you actually directing them with skill?

When to use it

• While watching her husband struggle to use his new high-tech grill, Elena takes the tongs and perfectly cooks the steaks. She looks at her sister and says, 'Men buy the toys, but we actually know how to use them.'
• In a corporate meeting, a male executive presents a massive new data platform but has no idea how to pitch it to clients. The lead saleswoman whispers to her colleague, 'He built the engine, but we are the ones who drive it.'
• Talking to her co-founder about a rival startup that raised millions but lacks brand identity, Maya says, 'They have the funding, but they do not have the wit to make people care.'