“It's probably not just by chance that I'm alone. It would be very hard for a man to live with me unless he's terribly strong, and if he's stronger than I am, I'm the one who can't live with him. I'm neither smart nor stupid, but I don't think I'm a run-of-the-mill person. I've been in business without being a businesswoman, I've loved without being a woman made only for love. The two men I loved will remember me, on earth or in heaven, because men always remember a woman who caused them concern and uneasiness. I've done my best in regard to people and to life, without precepts but with a taste for justice.”
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She refuses to apologize for being a difficult match for anyone who wants her small or easy. That blunt honesty asks you to notice where you smooth yourself down to keep peace. Pick one clear boundary you need to hold, and try keeping it for a week to see what changes. You won't win everyone's approval, but you'll start living by your own rules and a clear sense of fairness.
When to use it
- Job interview for a creative director role: "I won't take a title that sidelines my ideas; I need to be part of the decisions I answer for."
- Family dinner when relatives push marriage: "I won't marry just to stop the questions — I'd rather be alone than lose myself."
- Negotiating a business partnership: "I won't be the silent investor; I expect a seat at the table and fair treatment."
- After a breakup, telling a friend: "I stayed true to who I am; I won't pretend to be someone else so a relationship lasts."