About this quote

You don't have to erase your feelings to keep your self-respect. Decide whether your attention actually improves your life or just fills a hole. If the person keeps taking without change, stop giving them your time and emotional energy; if they show they deserve care, give your love with intention and limits. Be honest with yourself and make choices that protect your dignity.

When to use it

• After my ex started dating someone else: I told my friend I still care, but I've stopped chasing someone who won't meet me halfway.
• When my teenage daughter slammed the door and refused to talk: I said out loud, I love her even when she pushes me away, but I won't accept being treated like I'm invisible.
• As a mentor watching a mentee ignore every piece of feedback: I kept helping for a while, then I told my colleague I'm done investing unless they show they're willing to try.
• Before the season opener, the captain kept backing a player who disrespected the team; he told the squad, I can care about him, but not at the cost of the whole team.