About this quote

Books are a fast way to tell what someone values in their free time. An empty shelf often means they don't prioritize reading, curiosity, or the kinds of conversations you might want. Ask yourself if that matters to you, and use the space around you as a reality check. Small signs at home say more than a clever date-line ever will.

When to use it

• After a first date I went up to her apartment and scanned the living room — no books. I shrugged and told my friend, 'If they don't have books, don't fuck 'em.'
• While touring a flat with a potential roommate, I noticed their place was book-free. I said to the agent, 'No books, no deal.'
• I met a prospective tutor at her house to see how she worked; shelves full of kids' books and notes sealed it. If the room had been empty, I'd have remembered Waters' line and moved on.
• Talking to a mentor candidate at a casual meet-up, I asked about what they read; their blank answer made me think twice. I ended up saying later, 'I want someone who reads — if they don't have books, don't fuck 'em.'