About this quote

Constant thoughts of someone can shape how you spend your attention and time. They can feel comforting, or they can keep you from moving on. Ask yourself: do these visits bring warmth or hold you back? Notice when you reach for them and take one small action. Call the person, or write a single memory down.

When to use it

• At my mother's memorial, I whispered this line while I walked past her roses and felt every small memory at once.
• On our anniversary I said it to my partner to explain how often they turn up in my head, even on busy days.
• While packing up my dorm before graduation, I laughed and told my roommate the line as I folded a note they'd left me.
• After my surgery I read the sentence on a card and said it out loud to my partner while they sat with me in recovery.