About this quote

It points to hard-earned experience: repeated patterns strip away naive shock and force clearer judgment. Use that clarity to stop reacting and start studying the causes behind outcomes instead of blaming luck. Turn familiarity with failure or disappointment into a plan—prepare better, set boundaries, and act with intent.

When to use it

• After being let down by the same colleague, stop acting shocked and set firm expectations or change how you delegate.
• When bad news arrives about the market, don't freeze in surprise—review what went wrong, adjust your strategy, and protect your position.
• If relationships keep failing the same way, stop expecting different results and change who you trust or how you choose partners.
• Use past setbacks as fuel: anticipate obstacles, build systems that prevent repeat mistakes, and hold yourself accountable for improvement.