About this quote

Strong attraction can come bundled with repeated hurt, and that mix is harder to name than it should be. You feel pulled toward someone and you keep letting the same pain happen. Ask yourself what pattern you will accept and what needs to change. Make one clear move: say how it lands on you, step back for a night, or tell a friend and get perspective.

When to use it

• After he stood me up again the night before my presentation, I sat in the parking lot and remembered this line so I wouldn't text him an apology.
• Packing his hoodie into a box after we broke up, I kept thinking of that sentence and finally stopped convincing myself the crying was worth it.
• Before agreeing to see him a second time, I told my friend I kept hearing this line and decided to call out the jokes that made me tear up.
• When a charming teammate kept bulldozing my ideas at work and then smiled like nothing happened, I said the quote to myself to remind me not to excuse the hurt.