About this quote

People keep repeating the same painful relationships because the pattern feels normal. Notice what you trade for comfort: attention that hurts, excuses that wear you down, or the fear of being alone. Ask one clear question to test it—tell them one thing you need and watch the response. If nothing changes, make a plan to protect your time and energy.

When to use it

• After your roommate calls crying about another rebound, you answer the phone and say, "Have you fallen in love with the wrong person yet?"
• At a family dinner your sister explains why she moved back in with her ex and you ask, "Have you fallen in love with the wrong person yet?"
• During practice your teammate admits their partner tears down their training motivation and you say, "Have you fallen in love with the wrong person yet?"
• A coworker keeps missing deadlines because of relationship drama and, in the break room, you bluntly ask, "Have you fallen in love with the wrong person yet?"