About this quote

Keeping things to yourself can shrink your world and leave a hollow space where connection should be. Saying something to another person creates a thread between you and them, and that thread can turn into constant thinking or longing when they're not around. Ask yourself before you share: am I making room for closeness, or am I setting myself up to miss someone? Choose what to reveal and who to trust so you don’t carry extra, avoidable weight.

When to use it

• Packing my dorm room the night before flying to another country for work, I felt like telling my roommate everything — then I remembered the line and kept the confession to myself.
• After a great date, I almost texted him that I liked him more than I should have; instead I told myself not to spill anything I’d end up replaying alone.
• During the last week of the semester, I nearly told my study partner how much I admired them, but I thought of that Salinger line and held back.
• Leaving my hometown after my dad's funeral, relatives wanted stories; I caught myself and decided not to offer the one thing that would make me miss him all over again.