About this quote

The line forces a stop to easy judgment and pushes you to examine how situation shapes behavior. Ask what pressure or lack of resources would make you act the same, and own the part you play when conditions change. Use that answer to change one habit or circumstance today rather than pointing fingers.

When to use it

• When a coworker misses a deadline, don't sneer. Figure out what obstacles they had and fix your processes so you won't fall into the same trap.
• If someone lashes out in anger, don't dismiss them as 'weak.' Ask what stress would make you react that way and practice handling that pressure yourself.
• Seeing someone give up on a goal? Stop mocking and list the small barriers that pushed them over the edge. Remove one of those barriers from your own life this week.
• When mentoring, avoid moralizing. Compare circumstances honestly and give concrete steps you would follow if you were in their shoes.