About this quote

Words make marks in people and reputations that time rarely erases. Ask yourself: are you speaking to solve the problem or just to win the moment? Slow down, accept responsibility when you slip, and change how you speak so your future actions back up your apologies.

When to use it

• Before a heated conversation with a partner, repeat the line to yourself and take a breath so you don't say something that will linger.
• Use it as a rule when giving tough feedback at work: stick to facts and intent, not insults, to avoid burning bridges.
• Warn a teenager about posting online — teach them that one careless comment can follow them for years.
• If you hurt someone with words, admit the harm clearly, apologize without excuses, and change your behavior going forward.