About this quote

Put practical security before romantic wishful thinking. Make sure you can pay your bills and handle life on your own feet. After that, look for someone who truly cares rather than relying on a partner for survival. Treat money and love as separate questions so you can choose freely and with less risk.

When to use it

• During a pre-marriage talk about moving in together, I told my partner, "A woman should have money and a man who loves her," and insisted we sort finances before any wedding plans.
• When bargaining for a raise, I reminded myself, "A woman should have money and a man who loves her," and went in confident because I wasn't depending on compliments to survive.
• At a family dinner when relatives suggested I marry for security, I quoted, "A woman should have money and a man who loves her," and then explained why I want both independence and affection.
• After a breakup, I kept the line "A woman should have money and a man who loves her" on repeat to motivate saving and not rushing into the next relationship.