“A reformer cannot afford to have close intimacy with him whom he seeks to reform. True friendship is an identity of souls rarely to be found in this world.”
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Helping someone change asks for a certain distance; get too entangled and you lose the footing needed to stay honest with them. The same thought sets a high bar for friendship, since a true meeting of two souls is rarer than the word 'friend' suggests.
When to use it
- A mentor who keeps a friendly but professional distance so they can still deliver a hard truth.
- A recovery sponsor who supports without becoming a late-night hangout companion.
- Realizing a decades-long acquaintance was warm but never the deep, soul-level bond you assumed.