About this quote

Close friendships can hide feelings that show up out of nowhere and force a decision. You will have to choose: say what you feel and risk the friendship, or protect the bond by setting firm limits. What do you want? Be honest with yourself and with the other person, then act on that choice so you stop guessing.

When to use it

• After staying late on a client presentation with a coworker, I pulled them aside and said, 'Are we just teammates, or is this something else?'
• During finals my study partner and I kept getting close; I laughed and said, 'Remember that line about friends turning into more? Should we talk about this?'
• At my sister’s barbecue her best friend and I clicked all night; my sister warned me, 'Watch out — that friends-to-more thing happens,' and I had to decide whether to step back.
• After our soccer team won, my teammate and I hooked up; the next morning I messaged, 'Do you want to try this or keep things professional?'